Trigger Happy

What if you decided today to welcome pain? Our natural proclivity is to resist pain. We all have triggers that engage our own personal fears.  We stop ourselves from getting into a relationship or trying something new for fear of failure or rejection.  We remember a time when we were let down by someone or a situation didn’t work out in our favor.  We start to feel those feelings again.  It is quite painful. It actually feels like the end of the world.  We are then consumed by the thoughts and emotions associated with this particular fear.  It can swallow you up very quickly.  I have the good old fear of abandonment program running.  If I feel like I have opened up to someone and it feels like they are pulling away my ego kicks in.  It either wants to cling to the person or run far away.  Those are the two options to protect it from being abandoned.  There is another option and it is so much easier.  It might not feel like it and I promise you that your ego will want to fight this.  It is possible to see the pain as it it comes up and tell yourself things like “oh, this is my old pattern coming up”.   Then say “I am just going to relax and let this be here for a while”. See it as a passing event and however it turns out I will be ok.  It sounds really simple and it is.  You must however actually do it and be so present when these feeling arise.  Catching it in the first moment you feel the heat rising is the way to really change the course of your behavior.  The secret is you have to WANT to change.  Do you really want to feel better? Do you believe that you can?  Do you want to live in peace, joy and harmony? If you do, then do the simple thing.  Relax around your triggers.

Familiar Feeling

Oh the familiar feeling of uncertainty.  It is this wiggly feeling in your tummy and then your head starts spinning. So many scenarios running through your head. You go through each one playing that mental movie out and seeing how it turns out.  That thought dies and then you go on to another scenario. I wonder if the career I have chosen is the right one? Is there something better than I could be doing? How can I make more money?  Am I ever going to get married?  What am I going to have for breakfast?  It never stops and I have to tell you that it never will. You can meditate in a cave for hours and they will still come and go.  The key here is to recognize that those thoughts are not you. They are objects of consciousness. The real you is the center within that witnesses these thoughts.  The great thing is as you start to bring more awareness into your inner self.  You begin to catch these thoughts and you do not get carried away in the emotions of them.  We don’t want to get carried away in the emotions because emotions are feelings.  What we feel creates our experience. So if all day we are getting carried away by worrisome thoughts then in the long run we end up creating the experiences bases upon how we are feeling.  There is a paradox of creation and destiny here.  The paradox is that life is unfolding FOR us AND we are creating it by our feelings.  Remember though if you are creating through feelings, they must be authentic.  You cannot trick the universe.  Although, you can fake it till you make it.  You have been given a gift to come and watch the drama of life.  It helps me to remember in my strong resistance moments that this is just a blip in time.  Everything changes.